What did you forget to do today? Turned off the stove…check. Locked the door…check. Completed your assignments at work…check. Laundry…check. Taking time out to care for yourself…hmm.
With the multitude of roles and responsibilities we all try to juggle it is often inevitable that something will remain on our infinite to do list at the end of the day. More often that not, that forgotten or neglected item is our own self care. We care for our children, our homes, our spouses, our aging parents, but not for ourselves. The result is alarming, and documented. Read on…
Did you know that studies consistently find that caregivers demonstrate significantly higher rates of depressive symptoms than thier non-caregiving peers? Or that individuals between the ages of 66 and 96 who were caring for thier spouses, and who report caregiving-related stress have a 63% higher mortality rate than noncaregivers of the same age?
I do not share these statistics to be gloomy or alarmist, but to underscore the importance of caring for yourself…NOW.
You would not ignore medical advice and research in regards to caring for your loved one, so why ignore it in regards to caring for yourself?
It is not selfish, it is not trivial and it is not just about you. It is about physical health, it is based on scientifc findings and it has a direct impact on the loved ones around you, particularly those in your care.
So start small, put yourself back on your to do list today. Can you be bold enough to put yourself on the top of that to do list?
Here are some suggestions for small steps in the right directions. Make time for three deep breaths to start and end each day, or three minutes to listen to a favorite song. Then try for ten minutes of peace and quiet while you sip a cup of tea or maybe even a glass of wine. Build up to a half hour spent soaking in the tub or poring over a good book.
Where to find these nuggets of time? Be creative! Put your favorite song on a CD and take an extra spin around the block before heading straight home from work or errands. Find a quiet spot to sit on your lunch break to decompress. Use that time in the checkout line to take a few deep breaths and think of three things you are grateful for (I will admit I am still working on that one about the checkout line). The minutes are there for the taking. Take them, and TAKE CARE!
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